Are you truly happy? Really think about it for a while -the answer may surprise, enlighten or frighten you. Many of us today wouldn’t recognize happiness or the state of being in it because we are too caught up with Life and not Living The things most of us deal with on a daily basis can be draining and obscure our focus -our perfect picture of a happy life.
Life is: getting up earlier than you wanted to go to a job you hate just because it pays a hefty salary and you just need to have that new BMW, trying to please your parents by going to medical school even though you want to become a yoga instructor, being stuck in a relationship that is going no where (personal or professional) because you’re afraid of change or confrontation, making the same excuses and repeating mistakes…the list goes on, but you get the picture.
Living is: doing what you’re passionate about -even if that means you can’t afford to get a $80k car, being a driven and motivated person -striving to achieve personal goals and helping others, not being concerned with what other people think or say about you -knowing and being comfortable with who you are, not making excuses and learning from you mistakes, building and cultivate strong meaningful relationships, believing in something…I think you get the idea here too.
So how many of you are caught up in Life? And how many of you are actually Living?
How can I achieve true happiness? For some it may be one thing, yet for others it may be something completely different.
Here’s a list that may help (adapted from The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want)
- Count your blessings. Express gratitude for what you have.
- Cultivate optimism. Keep a journal and write about your best possible future.
- Avoid over thinking and social comparison. Minimize dwelling on problems and comparing yourself to others.
- Practice acts of kindness for family, friends and strangers
- Develop nurturing relationships.
- Do more activities that truly engage you. “Lose” yourself in the moment.
- Replay and savor life’s joys by thinking about them, sharing them through a story, or writing them down.
- Commit to your goals. Select several significant, meaningful goals and devote time and effort to pursuing them.
- Develop strategies for coping with stress, hardship or trauma.
- Learn to forgive.
- Practice religion and spirituality.
- Take care of your body by engaging in physical activity, meditating, and smiling and laughing.
That’s a pretty good list. Seems I have to get working on a few things. Some things you may be doing already (good job), others you may have never considered (try it out). Hopefully this can serve a a guide to a path of true happiness. If I can help in anyway -don’t hesitate to contact me.
Talk to you soon